Muslimah 101

As Muslims in general ,and Muslim women in particular , we exist in a system that's a totally different ballgame. I recently came across this article " How will you find a husband as an ambitious ,Muslim woman" and I just went, THIS!! ( Yeah I know I love myself too for being so expressive!)
These are some lines quoted from the said article.

"There’s this idea that when a woman gets married, she must be willing to forgo her career and ambition and take a step down or a step back. This idea frankly outrages me and what upsets me and needs to change is the fact that women are so accepting of it, largely out of fear and just putting it down to cultural norms. I’m not saying every woman should want to I’m just saying it should be a genuine choice."
Working women with high aspirations are seen as disruptors to the whole story book nuclear family in particular to within the minority ethnic groups.But his point was really on the lines of if you’re an over achiever how are we going to find you a husband? What man will want to marry an over achiever as it threatens his ‘manhood’.

Sometimes we come across circumstances and situations which can be simply termed in modern day, patriarchy,but is it really? If not, what is it then?

How exactly does it affect you if your future wife or daughter-in-law is a doctor or an engineer ( Yes, I know these are not the only fields that women are excelling in,but lets take a moment to understand that Im trying to depict the Pakistani/ South Asian society right now). I need these 3 things explained to me because I fail to understand them,truly.
1) Amazing degree- better proposals
2)Higher education, but not too much,because who will dare marry a freaking over-acheiver?
3) Goal acheived- Now that I have a parhi liki bahu,lets get her to work on gol rotis and gol rotis only,and no regards for her education.hardwork,time ,money that her parents dolled out for her education.
When I highlight this very point,I know people will go all pointing out, what a stupid notion, obviously of course one day she has to get married,have kids and settle down, but did you, for once asked her what she wanted?
Oh yes we did, we asked her all about the type of furniture, and jahaiz items,her clothes and jewelry designs,makeup,and her future room decor!
I love our religion for some many reasons,its beyond my explaining.I truly understand the importance of marriage, finding someone to grow together with as a person, and in one's deen .I also have read and tried my best to understand how,at different times,levels of a human life,both males and females,they face situations that test their faith, their decision making skills and understanding. How we come across ,towards the other side,depends alot on honing your skills. I always find myself at crossroads at these discussions.

"We need to start teaching men that letting your daughter follow her ambitions doesn’t make her any less desirable. And we need to teach men that letting your wife do her thing doesn’t make you less of a man. "

A little precautionary note-If you are somebody who has an outsider perspective to this,and after reading,you either go all, this doesn't happens in real life or Oh yeah,ofcourse this is such a problem for Muslims,they oppress their women,and their religion this & that,STOP. Learn & respect concepts alien to you,or if you don't think its worth the effort, quit it without harassing anyone